you can’t sit with us.
If I had a genie, other than wishing for Taylor Kitsch and a permanent invitation to the Louboutin sample sale, I would wish that I could have a BRAVO-style reunion complete with Andy Cohen as mediator/instigator, so I’d be able to call people out on their lies and general sneakery. Sound weird? Yeah, I mean I should probably wish for some peace in the Ukraine right about now, but I’m honestly at the point in my life where I can’t stand people that lie or are hypocrites. As I’ve come to find out, though, you can’t go walking around and calling people out on their sh*t all of the time because then you run the risk of being branded as, and even worse actually becoming, a b**ch- and not in the awesome, it’s-Britney-b**ch kind of way.
So this begs the questions: When is it acceptable to call people out? When does it make you a b**ch? And when are you a doormat for not calling people out? Here’s what I’ve come up with:
- You are a b**ch when you call people out on minor things and do it with malicious intent. You really don’t need to tell your friend that, and you know it.
- You’re a doormat when you consistently let someone treat you badly and don’t tell them to stop or bring the issue to their attention.
- It’s acceptable to call someone out on something when they are doing something to hurt you and they may not realize that their actions or words are hurting you.
Obviously, there are exceptions to all of these rules but I think we all realize when we are manipulating or being manipulated. The best piece of advice I have is plain and simple: be nice. It will be a much more fun life you’ll lead and you won’t have to worry about all of this other BS.
And if that doesn’t work, you can always sign up for a BRAVO casting call.
